YOU DON’T HAVE TO HAVE IT ALL figured out to start.|

neither of us planned it, yet seems to have been fated in the stars.

We first met in the fall of 2019 when we co-facilitated a group for survivors of sexual violence.

Though our workplace chemistry was immediate, the friendship took a little longer. Alex felt skeptical at first about crossing the colleagues-to-besties threshold, but Brit’s contagious warm-and-fuzzies ultimately pulled her in.

We are different people from different backgrounds, but we kept finding ourselves aligned on the things that mattered most: how to show up for others, how to hold space for healing, and how to do our own work. We went on to build our beloved book club together which turned into late nights talking, sharing birthdays and holidays, and eventually, becoming each other’s chosen family.

SOME PEOPLE JUST STICK.

IT DOES.
you're in the right place.

MAYBE YOU CAME HERE FEELING LIKE YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO BE further along by now.

Maybe you're holding two completely opposite feelings at once and don't know what to do with that. Maybe you have never done this before and do not know where to start. Maybe you're healing — and still hurting — and wondering if that even makes sense.

Let’s get started

WHAT WE BELIEVE

messy
together

REAL HEALING IS...
nonlinear.
contradictory.
grieving and grateful.
lost and certain.
broken and becoming.

A LOT OF MENTAL HEALTH SPACES WANT TO GET YOU TO THE OTHER SIDE — TO CALM, TO RESOLUTION, TO "FIXED."

We're not interested in tying up your story with a neat little bow, because that’s not really how it works.

“Fixing” is not what we're doing here. With/And is all about the process - the unglamorous, nonlinear, sometimes contradictory work of becoming. And we don't just hold that space for our clients. We're in it ourselves, too. We are experts in our fields, and we are both still figuring things out. There is something real and powerful about being in that messy middle together.

That binary idea that you can only feel one thing, be one thing, want one thing at a time? We push back on that. That's what With/And is built for — not the tidy version of you, but the full, complicated, real one. We hold space for the mess. It is not ‘either-or.’ With/And allows for the paradox, the "both at once,” because that is precisely where the truest version of you lives.

oh, and one more thing‍ ‍
WE KNOW THE PERSONAL IS POLITICAL.

The systems you're navigating, the identities you hold, the world in which you are doing this healing — none of that gets left at the door here.

“the concept of ‘and’ saved my life — and more importantly, my spirit.”

• Trauma, including childhood, sexual, and relationship harm
• Identity exploration & self-concept
• Inner child & developmental healing
• Eating disorders & body trust
• How the world shapes us — socialization, systemic harm, and identity
You may find me curled up with a good book (or more likely an audiobook and a puzzle). I read mostly thrillers, romances, and the kind of books that leave you thinking, ‘Okay, fine, life is beautiful.’ You might also find me planning my next trip (Ireland, I’m still dreaming of you), trying a new class, walking Cosy (my basset hound and sometimes co-therapist), auntie-ing, or Marco Polo-ing my besties. I’m always up for a good TV binge and am currently on my fifth rewatch of Grey’s Anatomy. I’m never far from a London Fog or an ice-cold Coke. My favorite sport to watch is Big Brother, and I take it very seriously

HI, I’M BRIT
i'm really glad
you're here.

I want you to know one thing
before anything else:

I AM GENUINELY,
WHOLEHEARTEDLY IN
YOUR CORNER.

Like, embarrassingly so. If you have a dream, a thought, an idea — I will do everything I can to help make it happen with you. I’ll celebrate your wins, sit with your losses, and probably ask a follow-up question about that thing you mentioned three weeks ago, because I actually thought about it.

Curiosity is my love language. I want to understand how things work, what's beneath the surface, and what makes people who they are. I ask a lot of questions and mean every one of them. And when I care about something, I care all the way. No half-assing over here.

I'm a licensed social worker and a restorative justice practitioner which gives me professional language for things I’ve always believed in, such as people's capacity to heal, the power of hard conversations, and the possibility of repair — even when it's complicated. Especially when it's complicated.

I also bring my full self to this work, including my experiences with invisible and chronic disabilities, complex trauma, and living in a larger body. These aren't footnotes. They shape how I see the world, whom I center, and why I do this work.

“i am enough, and i keep growing. yes, and.”

• Couples & relationships
• Emotion regulation
• Queer & trans identities
• Perinatal mental health & parenting
• Developmental trauma
• Life transitions
You may find me knitting, reading (primarily audiobooks, #thanksLibby), having a dance party with my kiddos, snuggling with my doggos, daydreaming with my partner, trying new foods, screaming karaoke, or FaceTiming with my friends and family around the world. I speak conversational Spanish and French. My favorite sports to watch are ice hockey and drag.

HI, I’M
DR. ALEX LONG
it’s good to have you here

HOWEVER YOUR STORY UNFOLDED AND LED YOU TO WITH/AND, I’M GLAD YOU’RE HERE WITH US

The main throughline of my own winding path has been my love of human stories. Before becoming a licensed clinical psychologist, I worked in the film & TV industry. I’ve always been fascinated by the way a person’s life story shapes their sense of self and how they relate to others.

In creative writing, there’s a paradoxical concept of character development: you want the character you’re creating to be totally unique and, somehow, also totally relatable. In the duality of the human experience, we are the only ones who truly know what it feels like to be in our own shoes, and, at the same time, the universality of human emotions connects us across cultures and eras.

As a therapist, I integrate person-centered, contemporary psychodynamic, and third-wave cognitive behavioral strategies. I’m very attuned to the relational process, which is how our therapeutic relationship shapes the way we explore and process your own interpersonal patterns. Throughout therapy, I make evidence-based interventions more accessible by sharing examples and metaphors, and by practicing the skills along with you.

My lived experiences inform my work at With/And – including my identities as a white, cisgender, able-bodied, mid-size, neurodivergent, sober, bisexual woman; a trauma survivor; a wife and a mom of two spunky humans and two rescue dogs; and a scientist-practitioner who’s still doing the work myself. Identity will always be a welcome part of our discourse in therapy.

and yes,
THERE IS A BASSET HOUND NAMED COSY IN OUR WORLD

and she is undoubtedly the most important detail on this entire page.

As our resident therapy dog, Cosy brings her long ears, short legs, and maximum sass to everything she does. Her specializations include tail wags and tough days.