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IT DOES.
you're in the right place.

Maybe you came here feeling like you're supposed to be further along by now.

Maybe you're holding two completely opposite feelings at once and don't know what to do with that. Maybe you have never done this before and do not know where to start. Maybe you're healing — and still hurting — and wondering if that even makes sense.

Let’s get started

WHAT WE BELIEVE

A lot of mental health spaces want to get you to the other side — to calm, to resolution, to "fixed."

We're not interested in tying up your story with a neat little bow, because that’s not really how it works.

“Fixing” is not what we're doing here. With/And is all about the process - the unglamorous, nonlinear, sometimes contradictory work of becoming. And we don't just hold that space for our clients. We're in it ourselves, too. We are experts in our fields, and we are both still figuring things out. There is something real and powerful about being in that messy middle together.

Real healing is nonlinear. It's contradictory. It's grieving and grateful. Lost and certain. Broken and becoming.

That binary idea that you can only feel one thing, be one thing, want one thing at a time? We push back on that. That's what With/And is built for — not the tidy version of you, but the full, complicated, real one. We hold space for the mess. It is not ‘either-or.’ With/And allows for the paradox, the "both at once,” because that is precisely where the truest version of you lives.

oh, and one more thing —WE KNOW THE PERSONAL IS POLITICAL.

The systems you're navigating, the identities you hold, the world in which you are doing this healing — none of that gets left at the door here.

WAYS IN
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WITH/AND is a full-circle moment

neither of us planned it, yet seems to have been fated in the stars.

We first met in the fall of 2019 when we co-facilitated a group for survivors of sexual violence.

Though our workplace chemistry was immediate, the friendship took a little longer. Alex felt skeptical at first about crossing the colleagues-to-besties threshold, but Brit’s contagious warm-and-fuzzies ultimately pulled her in.

We are different people from different backgrounds, but we kept finding ourselves aligned on the things that mattered most: how to show up for others, how to hold space for healing, and how to do our own work. We went on to build our beloved book club together which turned into late nights talking, sharing birthdays and holidays, and eventually, becoming each other’s chosen family.

SOME PEOPLE JUST STICK.

HI, I’M BRIT
i'm really glad
you're here.

I want to start with something that matters more to me than any title or credential:

I AM GENUINELY,
WHOLEHEARTEDLY IN
YOUR CORNER.

Like, embarrassingly so. If you have a dream, a thought, an idea — I will do everything I can to help make it happen with you. I celebrate your wins (and your losses) as if they're mine. I will ask a follow-up question about that thing you mentioned three weeks ago — because I actually thought about it.

Curiosity is basically my love language. I want to know how things work, why people do what they do, what's underneath the surface of everything. I ask a lot of questions. I mean it when I ask them. And when I care about something — and I really do care about things — I care all the way. No half-assing over here.

I'm a licensed social worker and a restorative justice practitioner, which means I've found professional language for things I was already doing: believing in people's capacity to heal, holding space for hard conversations, and trusting that repair is possible — even when it's complicated. Especially when it's complicated.

I also show up as my full self here, which means I bring my experiences as someone with invisible and chronic disabilities, a survivor of complex trauma, and as someone who lives in a larger body. These aren't footnotes — they shape how I see the world, who I center, and why I do this work.

    • Trauma, including childhood, sexual, and relationship harm

    • Identity exploration & self-concept

    • Inner child & developmental healing

    • Eating disorders & body trust

    • How the world shapes us — socialization, systemic harm, and identity

and yes, THERE IS A BASSET HOUND NAMED COSY IN MY LIFE

she is, objectively, the most important detail on this entire page. She is our resident therapy dog – long ears, short legs, maximum sass – a specialist in tail wags & tough days.

HI, I’M
DR. ALEX LONG

However your story unfolded and led you to With/And,

i’m so glad you found us.

Though my own path has had plenty of twists, there’s been one main through line: my love of human stories. Before becoming a licensed clinical psychologist, I studied film & television, and I worked in the industry. The way a person’s life story – from early attachment relationships to future goals, and every formative experience along the way – shapes their thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and how we relate to one another, fascinates me.

In creative writing, there’s a paradoxical concept of character development where you want the character you’re creating to be totally unique – such that they haven’t existed before in other stories – and totally relatable – such that anyone reading can see parts of themselves in that character. Isn’t that a reflection of the duality of the human experience? We are the only ones who truly know what it feels like to be in our own shoes, and, at the same time, we are all connected by the emotions we universally experience across cultures and eras.

My therapeutic approach is an integration of person-centered (you are the expert on your own lived experience), contemporary psychodynamic (your early childhood experiences and significant life events influence how you move through the world), and third-wave cognitive behavioral (Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and mindfulness) strategies, applied thoughtfully throughout your therapy journey. I also prioritize the relational process: how our therapeutic relationship with each other shapes the safe, honest space through which we explore your interpersonal patterns. Throughout therapy, I translate evidence-based psychological interventions into accessible strategies and skills that I, too, practice in my own life – with you.

    • Couples & relationships

    • Emotion regulation

    • Queer & trans identities

    • Perinatal mental health & parenting

    • Developmental trauma

    • Life transitions

OUTSIDE OF work

you may find me knitting, reading (primarily audiobooks, #thanksLibby), having a dance party with my kiddos, snuggling with my doggos, daydreaming with my partner, trying new foods, screaming karaoke, or FaceTiming with my friends and family around the world. I speak conversational Spanish and French. My favorite sports to watch are ice hockey and drag.

WHAT CLIENTS ARE SAYING

  • sometimes life puts people in your life to help guide you. YOU ARE ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE TO ME.

  • "everything i have learned about asking more from the communities around me, bringing my sunshine, leading with kindness and mentorship... I HAVE LEARNED UNDER YOUR GUIDANCE.”

WITH/AND was made for you if:

You're tired of feeling like you have to choose between different parts of yourself

You want support that is warm & skilled, real & clinical

You are a cycle breaker & asking yourself: what patterns end with me?

  • BLACK LIVES MATTER

    We stand firmly against anti-Black racism in all its forms. Black lives matter — fully, unconditionally, and without exception. We are committed to listening, learning, and acting in solidarity.

  • BODY TRUST, FAT LIBERATION, & HEALTH AT EVERY SIZE

    Every body deserves dignity, respect, and access to care — free from stigma and shame. We reject diet culture and fatphobia, and we affirm that health and worth are not determined by body size.

  • COEXISIT

    We believe in the inherent dignity of every faith, worldview, and belief system. We are committed to interfaith understanding and stand against religious discrimination, persecution, and bigotry of all forms.

  • GENDER EQUALITY

    We are committed to gender equity for all, including women, non-binary, transgender, agender, and gender-nonconforming people. Dismantling patriarchy and gender-based oppression is central to our values.

  • GLOBAL ACCESSIBILITY

    Accessibility is a right, not a feature. We are committed to creating spaces, services, and experiences that are fully inclusive of Disabled people — centering their expertise and lived experience in everything we do.

  • KINK & POLY AFFIRMING

    Consensual relationship and sexual diversity belong here. We affirm polyamorous, kink, and BDSM communities as part of our broader commitment to liberation — recognizing that who we love and how we love are personal, valid, and deserving of dignity. We value consent, care, and community.

  • LAND, LABOR, & DECOLONIZATION

    With/And operates on the ancestral homelands of the Piscataway Conoy, Manahoac, Algonkian, and Iroquois peoples, who stewarded this land for thousands of years before being displaced by colonial expansion. We also honor the enslaved African and African American people whose labor built this region. We believe this acknowledgment extends beyond our own geography — we stand in opposition to genocide, colonialism, and slavery in all forms, wherever they occur and whenever they have occurred, and in solidarity with every people whose land, labor, and lives have been taken from them.

  • LGBTQIA+ PRIDE

    We celebrate every identity across the full spectrum of sexuality and gender — including our Black, Indigenous, and People of Color LGBTQ+ community members, whose voices and leadership shaped this movement.

  • NEURODIVERSITY INFINITY

    Human minds work in beautifully different ways. We honor and affirm neurodivergent people — including those with Autism, ADHD, Dyslexia, and Learning Differences. We reject any framing that treats neurological differences as deficiency.

  • PRO-IMMIGRANT

    Immigrants and refugees enrich our communities, our culture, and our shared humanity. We stand in full support of immigrant rights, pathways to belonging, and an end to policies rooted in xenophobia and exclusion.

Healing requires honesty. We name the harmful histories of our community. We reckon with how colonial legacies, capitalist structures, and interlocking systems of power continue to shape our lives. We commit to doing better. We pledge to actively listen to and amplify marginalized voices, to examine how these histories show up in our own practices, and to take meaningful action in how we build relationships, allocate resources, and show up in our community. This is ongoing work. We hold ourselves accountable to it.